Sometimes, people get stuck in situations that they can't see a way out of. I don't believe in being stuck. I believe you stick yourself. I don't play victim. Certain people who are very close to me do, and it makes me very angry. They act like everything is "God's Will" or up to "fate" when the reality is that you have an active part to play in your life and you have to enact change.

Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is the definition of insanity for a reason. We've all done it in moments of weakness. We all may still do it again. It's what we do when the weak moments have passed that separates us.

I wish these people would see that they have power in their lives, that they can make a change and that change can be and often is good. Yes, change will be hard - it usually is because it forces us to grow - but it is a healing process too.

Fatalism has no place in this world, especially if you want to live a happy life...which I do.

I can't cut these people out of my life. They are too close to me, but what I have resigned myself to do is to not try and fix the situation. I've been doing that for them my entire life. I have offered help and they categorically reject it. It feels personal almost, but I know, deep down, it's their problem, not mine. I am just going to have to watch some people I love go down in flames and that's hard for me.

Really hard.